Now I'm not a Bride, I'm a Cardiff wedding photographer, and I've been a groom. O'h and I've been to over 500 weddings! Over that time I have watch brides. Talked to brides and listen to what has worked for them. I've heard many of their greatest regrets. And I have lost track of the number of times brides have said to me "If I were doing this again i'd...."
So I'm sharing with you five tips that I've seen myself or so many brides have told me works for them. So lets get started.
1. Tanned not Tangoed
We love our sun tans in the UK, whether it be the local tanning salon or the the fake spray, either way Bride's want a bronzed glow for their wedding day.
What most brides do not know is that their tan will appear two to three shades darker on camera. Canon camera will make you more orange than Nikon cameras because of the way the software processes your skin colour. The more tanned you are the more insipid anyone else standing with you in the photograph will look, like your husband.
We were the wedding photographers for a wannabe "Jordan". She had taken her tan to a whole new level of orangeness. So extreme was her tan that we had to desaturate every wedding photograph in order to make her look like a bride rather than an Umpa Lumpa.
Bronzing is great, however do it 24 to 48 hours before your wedding day so that the initial colour has settle down. Also the palms of your hands won't be orange on your wedding photos either. Keep your tan to no more than two shades warmer than your natural colour.
Remember you want to look radiant and golden not Tangoed.
2 Skin Diet
Now I'm not talking about loosing weight. If you want to diet for your wedding then that's great. What I am talking about is dieting for your complexion.
I agree we have photoshop and Elise works miracles sometimes with spots and facial eruptions. However on your wedding day you want your skin to feel good, not be made to look good afterwards.
This is a tough one. I'm now taking a deep breath. Hesitating..... Here goes - for one month before your wedding stop eating sweet things. Avoid sugar. Detox.
I'm not a rocket scientist and this isn't rocket science, we all know that one in a million bride who can eat five Yorkie bars, not put on an ounce, and have a porcelain complexion. Here's the tuff love - they are one in a million and chances are you are not that bride.
For one month:
- Halve your tea and coffee intake
- Replace it with drinking water ONLY do not drink squash. You don't have to use bottled water, tap water is fine. In fact I have a friend who works at Severn Trent on their purification systems and he tells me that tap water is cleaner than bottled!
- Stop eating chocolates or all sorts
- Stop eating the sticky puddings. Spotty Dick will make your complexion just that...!
- Stop eating sugar and sugary things. Look at the packaging, how much sugar are you really consuming?
This isn't designed for you to loose weight, though it may be a by product. Its designed to give your skin a fighting chance on the most important day of your life.
One bit of good new. The day after your wedding you can have what you like and waiting for it always makes it taste better... you know what I mean...
3. Phone a friend
Whatever you decide to do for your wedding day, whether its to loose a few pounds, go on a skin diet, up you fitness level, get an all over "soft" tan. Do it with a friend.
The job of Personal trainers is a growing one. Psychologically we need others to helps us along the journey of life, one reason why we are getting married.
Doing anything is better when you do it with someone else. This will separate the people you know into "friends" and "acquaintances".
Get at least one friend to commit to doing your one month pre wedding regime. Make sure you speak everyday to encourage each other. Meet up as often as you can, run, cycle, do aerobics together as often as you can. Talk on the phone everyday and meet at least twice a week to encourage each other. If you can get a team of girls together to help the all the better.
4. Break them in, so you're not Broken
This is obvious and you already know I am talking about your shoes. So why do so many brides AND grooms forget to wear their shoes in?
Almost every week I see couples hobbling around on the dance floor for their first romantic dance of their wedding day. As a wedding photographer I can still create some great wedding photographs even if you look like Gandalf dancing with Yoda.
Seriously though, you have to wear your shoes for your wedding photography otherwise your dress won't fall properly. Your dress has been made, and possible altered to account for the height of your shoes, so flats are going to ruin your photographs.
5. Practice you photography
I don't mean get all your friends to take photographs of you. I mean meet up with your wedding photographer before your wedding and try out some photographs.
There are still way to many wedding photographers who do not offer this kind of session. Wow wedding photography does not happen by accident. Its thought through, planned and you have to play your part. Next time you look at a wedding photograph and think "I love that..." then it probably required the bride and groom to bend and move in ways unfamiliar and can't be learnt on the wedding day.
If you don't know how to be photographed professionally, or you are shy, or you feel you lack confidence in front of a camera, or you say "I'm not photogenic", which by the way is a lie. Then you need a pre wedding photography session.
If you want more details on this check out this article.
After all's said and done we really hope you have a great wedding day and that your wedding photographers capture some fantastic photographs for you.